When I talk about “leading in Alignment”, at first blush you might not get what I really mean. I find most people think about aligning with their work or their boss’s agenda, with their significant other or in their family…and these are all good places to seek alliance or teaming up. We want to be united with our goals and in our relationships. And yet, if you’re like most people, you might not be aware of how sometimes prioritizing your alignment with others or with outward objectives can actually be ineffective if you are not first and foremost in Alignment with yourself.
Why Alignment with yourself first matters is because it’s a state of being that will empower your best engagement and fuel optimal results in all areas of your life. The way you know you are in Alignment with your True Self is simply that you feel good—calm, contented, curious, compassionate, etc. When you feel good, your brain works better—you can make clear decisions, effectively connect with others, and get innovative ideas. When you are in Alignment, you feel balanced and energized. You have the capacity to be more patient and understanding, more focused and productive. When you are in Alignment with your True Self, the Spirit part of you has an open channel through which to express itself, to inspire your actions and to bring forth positive effects into the world.
If you’re like most people, however, you might find yourself out of Alignment with your True Self more often than not. You can tell you’re out of Alignment when you feel bad—whatever form that may be. Your highest capacities are compromised as you find yourself feeling stressed, cranky, overwhelmed or depressed. You aren’t efficient, your goal-orientation goes out the window, you couldn’t give two shakes about how someone else feels, and you’re disconnected from your source of creativity. This is all a symptom of your relationship with your Spirit-self being disrupted.
Given this, would you agree that your life flows better and you feel happier when you are in Alignment than when you are out of alignment?
Okay, cool. So now, how do you activate your Alignment? You do it through the free will of your mental focus to “think positive.” Said differently, you get into Alignment by choosing thoughts that feel good to you. That’s right, I said choosing. You have to sift through the vast reservoirs of your brain to seek out or even invent new thoughts that can help you feel better and better. They may not be “true” based on your current outer reality, but that doesn’t mean they can’t feel true on the inside… and it’s the inner feeling that counts most when it comes to your Alignment with your True Self.
Sometimes you might need to outsource good-feeling thoughts—or do what I call “borrow a brain.” When you get stuck in your misalignment you may need someone else’s ideas to help you get back into Alignment. Here are a few you can try to see if they work for you:
- Things are always working out for me.
- There’s a gift in everything, even if I can’t see it yet.
- Life is always on my side, both when there are ups and when there are downs.
- What if this problem were already solved?
- Is this [issue] really worth feeling badly about?… I mean, really?
- I know there is a good outcome in the works. This situation just hasn’t played itself out yet.
When it comes to how you are leading all areas of your life, being in Alignment with your True Self—which is marked by feeling good—will always guide you in the direction of your best outcomes and will benefit all those whom you touch. It will empower you to be your most resourceful, empathetic, energized and engaged.
Simply remind yourself throughout the day to “Get into Alignment and then ___” —fill in the blank with whatever it is you’re about to do. “Get into Alignment and then…send the email, go into the meeting, pick up the kids, talk to your spouse…etc. Feel good first and empower yourself to attract your ideal circumstances and achieve your greatest results.
And the bonus? You get to live each day feeling happy, peaceful and connected all along the way.