I hear it all the time, in particular among women… “you should get paid what you’re worth!” … or, “I know I should get paid more but…” or, about another lady, “why don’t they charge what they’re worth?” Women tend to undercut what they charge or settle for earning less in order to be “nice” or “affordable”, worried that people won’t pay their desired rates for their gifts and talents, knowledge and services.
But this concept is moderately laughable to me simply because if you charge “what you’re worth”, nobody on the planet could afford you. You are priceless! While that statement may sound trite, it’s also true. As an infinite Spiritual Being having a human experience, your worth cannot be measured nor esteemed by a dollar amount.
I’m not saying there aren’t differences in value, I’m saying we need to adapt our language and perspectives to address what we’re really talking about there. When we talk about “charging what you’re worth” what we really mean is “exchanging an equal value of energy given and received.” Whoa, ok, break it down…
Money is a form of energy used as a medium for exchange (after all, we don’t use a cart of apples to pay for a doctor visit anymore).
Your contribution is energy given by you—in the form of ideas, talents, specialized knowledge and/or literal physical output. This is supply.
There are needs in the world that require receiving what your contribution offers—healing, innovation, growth, awareness, learning, resolution, support, pleasure, creativity, and beyond. This is demand.
So, the needs of the world require your contribution in order to be met.
When you contribute you give your energy. In order to stay in balance and harmony with life, you must also receive energy. This is where money comes in.
Earning “what your worth” is about receiving compensation for the impact you have by way of your energetic contribution. The greater or deeper the positive impact, the more the value. The more positive value, the more the money.
Now, here’s the final crux of the conversation… your value is measured by: #1) how effectively you contribute the solution to the demand, and #2) how easily someone else could provide the same thing.
There is only one of You, so in essence, your worth is priceless. But your contribution can be measured based on the impact it has. And your impact always carries the quality of energy with which it is delivered…in short, the vibrational—mental and emotional—state you’re in when you do it. You cannot put a price on your worthiness…but you can put a price on the value you provide by way of your energetic impact.
This begs the questions… What’s the vibrational quality of the energy you bring into what you contribute?…are you filled more with doubt, worry, frustration, impatience…or excitement, eagerness, calm, and clarity? How AUTHENTIC are you when you do what you do? How can you deliver with greater joy? What’s the next-higher level of positive impact you can contribute? How much of your beautiful Self are you bringing into the world? Are you holding back… or shining full out?
To be clear here, we are not necessarily talking about DOing more to bring more value… most people I know—and women in particular—can’t possibly squeeze in more doing. We are talking about BEing more. We’re talking about doing from a high quality of energy, which basically means from a positive mood, which is the indicator that you are in Alignment with your True Spirit.
When you hold a high bar for the quality of energy that you contribute, you evoke a balanced “energy exchange” when it comes to the money part. Do from a place of authenticity and feeling good, and rewards will seek you out. Know the positive impact you are making simply by your joy and inner peace being infused into what you do, and continuously strive to BE more of You. As such, you become truly irreplaceable in the human realm and thereby build your measurable “worth”—the value of your contribution—to receive the abundance and equal exchange you’re innately meant to enjoy. And the bonus? It’ll feel effortless and fun along the journey.